In a few hours it will be a brand new year. I think we are all amazed that it is already 2011.
This year has held some of the most unbelievable events in my life--as tough as some of them have been, they have each held a reason for change, for growth, to clean out life and be surrounded by positive thinkers and people who choose, repeat CHOOSE- to be positive.
This time on earth is short and full of life lessons for us all. We each make a conscious choice daily on how our lives will be lived. Don't sweat the small stuff; for life is not worth it. Keep positive and happy, for each moment that ticks by is our LIVES...will you look back and say that you were happy, at least trying to make each day a good one by caring about other people, showing kindness and always being honest?? Try it--you will enjoy a much more quiet and calm internal (and external) life!
I have learned this past year that although the majority of those I know in my personal life are exactly what they say they are--sweet, caring and loving people.....there are always going to be those that end up turning on another in a moment--surprising the heck out of us. There is hurt in everyone's life, this is simply part of our learning experience. We can be the most caring, giving, generous in mind, spirit and wallet; and still be hurt by those we thought were there for the long haul.
Friends that suddenly decide they do not need us anymore and have actually used us up over the years will show their true colors....someday, and when we least expect it. I am shocked at the hurtful words that have been thrown in my face, and by the people (or person) who have done so is the most shocking of all. Those I have taken the time to help, care about, listen to, whom I have CHOSEN not to turn my back on when they needed me....in one moment have hurt me beyond words. My heart breaks when I think of the words hurled at me. I won't use my platform here to berate the person in particular, it is the lessons learned that are worth writing about.
Yet how do we truly know when this will happen? Especially if it comes from a person that has been in our lives, whom has had absolutely no issue with accepting my help, and never had a reason to be angry....it is a life lesson that has taken many years in the making to understand. I am still not 100% in total understanding the whys this shocking attitude was necessary. I really don't think I will ever understand.
When is the last time you took it upon yourself to clean up where you live? Something small and insignificant in life, right? WRONG. I was screamed at for cleaning because I had: wait for it....wait for it.....entered a room to vacuum the floor that hadn't been cleaned for 4 months or longer. Uh huh. I was berated for cleaning. Now THAT'S a new one I haven't run across yet!
I am SO DONE with people that are spoiled, feel they are entitled, and have absolutely no sense of manners or respect for elders--or for anyone for that matter. More than that, I am done with the parenting, (and the parents), that actually allow that type of behavior and do not absolutely insist on a much-needed apology. So done. (Did I mention I was done?) LOL
Time to move on to a fresh year, a fresh start, getting back to work after the Pump implantation, and focusing on all things positive!!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! WELCOME 2011........
And as always, Gentle Hugs...
Friday, December 31, 2010
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I am so with you about entitlement, disrespect, and so forth. There are family members we don't see anymore because we can't stand being around them or their kids. Who has time in life to deal with energy-draining people? Wishing you a better 2011 and lots of gentle hugs coming your way!
ReplyDeleteShauna: There is a post I read a few days ago from a minister in Canada that seems to answer your question:
ReplyDeletehttp://innerdorothy.blogspot.com/2010/12/thanks-to-rlp.html
It says you will meet 12 people in your life that hate you for no reason, and 12 people in your life that adore you for no reason, and both types are not healthy to have around.
Hoping you have a better 2011. You had a friend whose life was "all about me" and when your relationship became not about them it was wrong in their eyes! Have met a couple of people like that in my life too
Shauna ~
ReplyDeleteWell said! I can relate to everything you wrote here. Funny. One of the "intentions" I scribbled a list of included cutting "deadwood" from my life, meaning people who treat me shabbily or as an afterthought, including family members like my remaining brother, an aunt, a cousin, as well as people who are not related. Of course, there are other forms of "deadwood" to be removed as well, that use up my time and energy but give nothing in return. I'm sorry you have been hurt by unkind words and deeds by unking, selfish people. I hope you know there are those of us "out here" who love you and wish only good things for you.
Blessings to you!
Love this post Shauna. 2011 makes me a sickie for 10 years. How depressing for me. This year we were not invited to any family gatherings for Thanksgiving OR Christmas. I guess they are all sick of me being sick. I guess I cancelled one too many times for them. But I was happy at home with my Hubby, two sons, and sister. My Mom just passed away in October...Guess it was better to be home than around alot of people pretending everything is OK. Thanks for the great words to start 2011.mo
ReplyDeleteYay for all things positive!!!
ReplyDeleteThanks so very much for stopping by my place Shauna. I've bookmarked you as well. I'm entering into year 6 of pain-from-you-know-where. I can't quite believe it. There have been short reprieves, but otherwise, the pain is pretty constant.
What can I do but try my best to live well despite the pain? Well, aside from never giving up hope, and never failing to turn over a stone that might have help under it... :)
All the best for 2011!
Another great post Shauna. I truly wish you a year of positives everywhere you turn. !
ReplyDeleteLanna
Professor, (great to see you!), Winny, Mother, Mo and Sue:
ReplyDeleteI am overcome with both joy and near tears of thankfulness to all of you for understanding what I was saying; and the feedback you have given.
I believe that we all must have felt this way at one time or another in our lives. After reading Sue's excellent post about the 12 people that will just plain old not like you in life, and the 12 that will love you too much, I feel that there is a general understanding regarding this issue in life.
This is never something that I would ever wish on anyone...to have your heart hurt in any way by anyone, but I must say that when we do share these experiences, we do not feel so alone. And that is an important, positive thing to know. We are joined together as humans when we realize that we are not alone in a given situation.
Thanks again for all of your insightful and caring comments.
Gentle Hugs always----<3
LANNA; hon I thank you too!! Didn't see your comment until after I wrote the above. Happy New Year to you too!!! And as always, Gentle Hugs----<3
ReplyDeleteyou are invited to follow my blog
ReplyDeleteThis is a good post Shauna. Who knows what makes people act this way, but we can control the situation by shutting them out of our lives.
ReplyDeleteMo, I couldn't imagine being shut out by your family over the holidays. It's their loss, just enjoy the ones that love you.
Best wishes for a happy and healthy 2011.
Steve: I left a comment on your blog. Thanks for visiting!
ReplyDeleteHey hey Terry! Mo is not alone...it is unfortunately more common than you can imagine. You are so right in saying to just enjoy the ones that love us. As far as family goes, it is often thought that JUST because we are related to someone, that they love and care about us.
Maybe the best thing to say here is: "THERE ARE TWO THINGS IN LIFE WE ARE UNABLE TO CHOOSE: FIRST IS OUR NEIGHBORS, AND SECOND IS OUR FAMILY!"
Gentle Hugs Terry and Happy 2011 hun. ----<3
I really enjoyed reading the posts on your blog. I would like to invite you to come on over to my blog and check it out. God bless, Lloyd
ReplyDeleteI have added myself to follow your blog. You are more than welcome to visit my blog and become a follower also.
ReplyDeleteHi Shauna, good to visit your site, indeed you are a compassionate personality, keep inform the things around. With All Good Wishes for the New Year 2011
ReplyDeleteDear Lloyd, Covnitkepr, and Philip:
ReplyDeleteThank you all for stopping by, and for your kind comments! I finally have some time to go 'blog-hopping' today, and look forward to reading all of what you have to say!!
Gentle Hugs------<3